Zero Offseason covers the "ABC's of divorce & sports parenting: aligning goals between co-parents, youth coaches and players; following the best interests standard with the parenting plan and child support; and controlling the controllables.
It's a quick, easy read for busy sports parents and available @ www.amazon.com
If you pick up a copy by Friday, July 24th shoot me an email and I'll send you a free PDF version to share with other sports parents, coaches and student-athletes.
http://www.amazon.com/Zero-Offseason-Divorce-Sports-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00PLY51RW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1437242851&sr=8-1&keywords=zero+offseason&pebp=1437242901908&perid=0N8E62618RT6A2ZK324Y
Saturday, July 18, 2015
Monday, July 13, 2015
Navy Seals Creed - Adversity
Love this Navy Seals Creed that Dallas Cowboys TE Jason Witten keeps in his locker.
I will never quit;
I persevere and thrive on adversity;
My team expects me to be physically harder and mentally stronger than our competition;
If knocked down, I will get up every time;
I will draw on every remaining source of strength to help my team and to accomplish our goal;
I am never out of the fight
I will never quit;
I persevere and thrive on adversity;
My team expects me to be physically harder and mentally stronger than our competition;
If knocked down, I will get up every time;
I will draw on every remaining source of strength to help my team and to accomplish our goal;
I am never out of the fight
Thursday, July 9, 2015
Sports Parenting Resource: Positive Coaching Alliance
Positive Coaching Alliance.
Great (free) resource for youth coaches, sports parents and student-athletes.
https://www.positivecoach.org/
Great (free) resource for youth coaches, sports parents and student-athletes.
https://www.positivecoach.org/
Wednesday, July 8, 2015
TED Talk: Youth Sports & Grit
With summer sports camps going on now, it's worth it to watch (or rewatch) Angela Duckworth's 6-minute video on the importance of "grit" to success. Angela was also recently interviewed on the Spartan Up podcast on grit.
http://www.ted.com/talks/angela_lee_duckworth_the_key_to_success_grit
http://www.ted.com/talks/angela_lee_duckworth_the_key_to_success_grit
Saturday, July 4, 2015
Divorce & Negotiation Tips
Quick tips for divorce & negotiations:
1. Understand the difference between an "initial" no vs. a "final" no.
2. The law of reciprocity - this applies to both positive and negative actions.
3. Like, know, and trust - develop this (at least the trust part!) before the "ask."
4. Preparation is key - understand the other side's interests, values and motivations.
5. Maintain credibility - don't throw the negotiation anchor out too far. Be realistic.
6. One-Off vs. Ongoing Relationship - unlike leasing a car or buying a house you will see the other party for decades to come. Keep it civil, don't grab all the Skittles off the table.
7. Reality Checks - really evaluate how the decisions you and ex agree on will play out down the road.
8. Body language - most of what is communicated is done thru visual ques. Are you putting the ex at ease or ramping up the tension in the room?
1. Understand the difference between an "initial" no vs. a "final" no.
2. The law of reciprocity - this applies to both positive and negative actions.
3. Like, know, and trust - develop this (at least the trust part!) before the "ask."
4. Preparation is key - understand the other side's interests, values and motivations.
5. Maintain credibility - don't throw the negotiation anchor out too far. Be realistic.
6. One-Off vs. Ongoing Relationship - unlike leasing a car or buying a house you will see the other party for decades to come. Keep it civil, don't grab all the Skittles off the table.
7. Reality Checks - really evaluate how the decisions you and ex agree on will play out down the road.
8. Body language - most of what is communicated is done thru visual ques. Are you putting the ex at ease or ramping up the tension in the room?
Friday, July 3, 2015
Helicopter Sports Parents
“Sports-Dad
Sues High School Track Coach for $40M.”
True story! A
track dad sued his son’s coach and school when the student-athlete was removed
from the team for unexcused absences.
Track dad claimed this harmed his son’s chances at a college scholarship. But what college coach wants to deal with
that family for next four years? Don't be that guy.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
Divorce & Negotiations: Ten Skittles on the Table
There's ten Skittles on the table. It's okay to gobble them all up when involved with one-time negotiations - car lease; buying a house, etc....negotiations where you won't see the other party again.
Not so much when it comes to divorce and negotiations. Chances are, whether you like it or not, you'll see the ex for the next ten, twenty, thirty years at birthday parties, graduations, youth sports games, school events. So, don't gobble up all the Skittles on the table when you sit down to negotiate a change in the parenting plan or additional child support to pay for summer sports camps.
Keep in mind that child support is NOT "mandatory" for extracurricular activities like sports and camps and other events that are not specifically related to education, healthcare, and housing. So, you must negotiate your position and allow the other side to come away feeling good about the situation as well.
It's not about being weak or giving in but really about self-preservation and creating goodwill for when you need something from the other side down the road and they hold the leverage on that specific issue.
More divorce and sports parenting tips in my book, Zero Offseason, now available at www.Amazon.com
http://www.amazon.com/Zero-Offseason-Divorce-Sports-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00PLY51RW/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1435757009&sr=8-2&keywords=zero+offseason
Not so much when it comes to divorce and negotiations. Chances are, whether you like it or not, you'll see the ex for the next ten, twenty, thirty years at birthday parties, graduations, youth sports games, school events. So, don't gobble up all the Skittles on the table when you sit down to negotiate a change in the parenting plan or additional child support to pay for summer sports camps.
Keep in mind that child support is NOT "mandatory" for extracurricular activities like sports and camps and other events that are not specifically related to education, healthcare, and housing. So, you must negotiate your position and allow the other side to come away feeling good about the situation as well.
It's not about being weak or giving in but really about self-preservation and creating goodwill for when you need something from the other side down the road and they hold the leverage on that specific issue.
More divorce and sports parenting tips in my book, Zero Offseason, now available at www.Amazon.com
http://www.amazon.com/Zero-Offseason-Divorce-Sports-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00PLY51RW/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1435757009&sr=8-2&keywords=zero+offseason
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